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Accept your fear.
恐れを受け入れよう。

 

A lack of confidence bothered me. And it still does.

It comes from my biggest fear — fear of being rejected or ignored. A long time ago I acknowledged this fear, which was generated by my childhood experience, but it still remains. Even worse, it often works as if it were my belief — I often try to validate this fear by looking for the reasons people could reject or ignore me.

I’m not good enough. Not attractive enough. Not disciplined enough. My English sounds weird. I can figure out hundreds of reasons instantaneously.

Having this fear in my mind, I often didn’t believe positive feedback from others. It just created cognitive dissonance in my mind and made me do bizarre things — so that people can reject or ignore me.

Nothing seemed helpful: self-help books or gurus, hustle, or money — either having it a lot or losing it a lot. But I finally understood that I was able to live with this fear only by having more interaction with people, not by something else.

Even if I am faithfully devoted to other people, ready to support them, and actually provide whatever they need, not a few people will reject or ignore me. But that’s fine — that’s their problem, not mine. I just stop putting other’s problem on my shoulder, and it helps me face my fear and see it as is.

I still have the fear. But I can deal with it much better now.

 

 

 

Go beyond competition.
競争を超越しよう。

 

Working hard can be the laziest form of competition.

If you would just keep working hard, you would become dispensable sooner or later — because there is always someone who works harder (and at a price cheaper) than you.

Don’t get me wrong — working hard is essential to make you good. Or to gain a mastery of something. But it’s just one piece of the puzzle.

Another piece is to do things differently. But, as you can easily imagine, just doing things differently can lead you to be a weirdo.

It isn’t until you work hard and start doing something differently that you see the next level of competition. Well, it’s no longer a competition — It’s an endless battle with yourself to become and stay unique. And most importantly, your uniqueness is not for your own sake; it’s for the world around you.

Let us polish our uniqueness, and use it to make this world a better place for all life.

 

 

Be your own compass.
自分自身の羅針盤になろう。

 

You are the only person who can be consistent with your true self.

Don’t expect others to be consistent for your sake. Many people — including your teacher, your family, your close friends, authorities, famous writers or successful entrepreneurs — are sometimes inconsistent with their words. It doesn’t mean that they are careless or frivolous; it just shows how hard it is for all of us to be consistent with ourselves.

Take time to reflect on who you are. Think about your important belief. Find out why you do (or don’t) a certain thing. Keep a log of your actions and their outcome. Every one or two weeks, go over previous logs to see what went well or wrong.

We can be inconsistent with our previous self when we make progress. That’s okay — it’s a good change. But you have to be sure that you are making progress. If not, you are going nowhere.

 

 

Apply your worry wisely.
懸念を賢く扱おう。

 

Do you want to ride a bike without brakes?

Learning how to use brakes is vital when we drive a car or ride a bike. They control the speed and stop the car or bike when necessary. We definitely need brakes to avoid an accident — but if we use brakes in a wrong way, it can also lead to a disaster. What would happen if we brake hard while driving a car at a high speed?

Our worry often works like brakes. We can’t completely eliminate our worry from our mind — it is part of the function of our brain. We just have to use it wisely. It can save our lives — if you work too hard and can’t sleep well every day, you definitely need to worry about your physical and mental health.

But our worry also can stagnate our life. If you worry too much about making mistakes, you can’t make any progress. We wouldn’t go anywhere if we always put brakes on our moves.

Use our worry to protect our lives, not to prevent us from moving forward.

 

 

Get disciplined.
自制心を鍛えよう。

 

I’m a weight training enthusiast. But very mediocre one.

I did weight training only occasionally in my twenties and thirties. It wasn’t until my body was getting really ugly in my forties that I started to work on weight training — a bit seriously. I’ve been doing the training for two years, but am still on the way to transforming my body. One of my buddies at the gym once told me that, if I couldn’t bench the same weight as my body, I was a mediocre weightlifter. It was probably the only time in my life when I felt it was okay to be mediocre for the rest of my life.

Although I go to the gym only twice a week now and am still unable to lift a heavy weight, working on a weight training helps me get disciplined even during a rough time. I can also get an immediate feedback by exact figures — such as the weight I’m lifting, number of repetitions and sets — and easily see my progress (or regress). It helps me keep motivated, and that’s why I keep going to the gym.

I know that a weight training is not suitable for everyone. There are many other things that help you get disciplined in a similar way — and it doesn’t have to be a hard one. Going for a walk for 10 minutes every day, writing or drawing for 15 minutes every day, reading a book for 10 minutes every day — anything goes if you like to do it.

One small habit can get you disciplined. This discipline spreads from one field to another, and eventually becomes a solid foundation of your future life and business.