Set your standard.
Here’s my favorite quote from the movie “Gladiator”:
Maximus: Do you find it difficult to do your duty?
Cicero: Sometimes I do what I want to do. The rest of the time, I do what I have to.
If we turned around what Cicero said, it would be a completely different lifestyle: Sometimes we do what we have to do, and the rest of the time, we do what we want to.
Which one is your default?